How Life Changes After Kids
Having children is often described as a blessing, a responsibility, a journey, and sometimes, all three in one breath. We asked five very different parents one big question: “How has your life changed since having kids?”
Their honest answers may surprise you, inspire you, or sound exactly like your story. Whether you’re a parent, about to be one, or just curious about what parenting really feels like behind the scenes, read on.
Meet the Parents
1. Mrs Faith
A devoted Christian mother of four, raising her kids with old-school values and deep faith.
2. Daddy Bayo
A tech-savvy, gentle parenting dad of two, raising tomorrow’s innovators with screens and scriptures.
3. Miss Favour
A market-savvy single mother juggling life’s demands with raw strength and real talk.
4. Mama Nneka
A progressive educator and mother of teens, balancing excellence, purpose, and gospel truth.
5. Grandma Eloho
A retired grandma unexpectedly raising her grandchildren and bringing the old wisdom to new times.
1. How Has How You Spend Money Changed?
Mrs Faith:
"Before kids, I could buy dresses or give more in church. Now, school fees, food, and their Sunday clothes eat up my wallet. Even my offering is now multiplied by four."
Daddy Bayo:
"My money now goes into gadgets, coding apps, and educational tools. I used to be the 'latest phone' guy, now I’m budgeting for kid-friendly tech and STEM kits."
Miss Favour:
"Every kobo counts. Wigs and takeaway food are history. Now it's about school bags, uniforms, and stretching one pot of soup into three meals."
Mama Nneka:
"Now I invest in music classes, reading programs, and purposeful trips. I see my kids as my greatest investment portfolio."
Grandma Eloho:
"My pension now covers biscuits, uniforms, and cough syrup. I used to buy scarves for women’s fellowship, now it’s cereals and pencils."
2. How Has Your Behavior or Temperament Changed?
Mrs Faith:
"I used to be hot-tempered. Now, I pause, I breathe, I remember they're my assignment. God is using them to refine me."
Daddy Bayo:
"My children taught me patience. I now read parenting books and choose my words more wisely. I’ve learned to be present and responsive."
Miss Favour:
"I’ve become both harder and softer. I’m tougher in discipline but their struggles make me cry easier. Kids bring out all your layers."
Mama Nneka:
"I’ve become more empathetic. I listen better, both at home and at work. I realized you can’t lead well if you can’t parent well."
Grandma Eloho:
"I’ve become gentle again. My grandchildren softened me. I laugh more, shout less, and I let them help in the kitchen even if it slows me down."
3. How Has Your Dressing Changed?
Mrs Faith:
"Heels and lace are now rare. I go for comfort and modesty. Children come first even in my wardrobe."
Daddy Bayo:
"I dress more intentionally now. No more rumpled tees to school meetings. I want my kids to see excellence, even in simple things."
Miss Favour:
"I still slay on a budget. But I’ve toned it down. No more flashy looks when I’m doing school runs and grinding in the market."
Mama Nneka:
"I’m more self-aware. Kids copy everything, so I dress with modest confidence. I want my daughters to see dignity, not trends."
Grandma Eloho:
"My wrappers are still my style, but now I wear brighter colours. The kids say I look fine, and I love hearing that."
4. How Has Your Spending Behavior Changed?
Mrs Faith:
"I now save for things I didn’t even used to think about; church camp, excursions, sandals. Spontaneous spending is gone."
Daddy Bayo:
"I track everything with a budgeting app now. From diapers to piano classes, my money is now mission-focused."
Miss Favour:
"I live by a list. Every market run is strategic. My budget looks like a school timetable."
Mama Nneka:
"I no longer spend for the moment. I spend for the future–purposeful holidays, mentoring sessions, leadership books. Everything has to count."
Grandma Eloho:
"My spending is simple: what do they need today? Food, school, peace of mind. That’s it."
5. How Has Your Walk With God Changed?
Mrs Faith:
"I pray more. Fast more. My children are my daily prayer points. They’re not just mine, they belong to God first."
Daddy Bayo:
"My devotions now include bedtime Bible stories. I’m more aware that I’m their first teacher, not just of tech, but of truth."
Miss Favour:
"God is my lifeline. I pray on the go, sing hymns in the bathroom, and commit every worry into His hands. I can't afford to parent without Him."
Mama Nneka:
"My spiritual life deepened when I realized parenting is discipleship. I ask God for wisdom like Solomon every day."
Grandma Guardian:
"I kneel more than I walk. Midnight prayers are back. I sing old hymns with them and teach them Psalm 23 by heart. This is my final mission field."
Key Takeaway:
Parenting doesn’t just change your schedule, it changes your soul. These voices show us that while every parent’s path is different, the transformation is universal.
You spend differently. You think differently. You even pray differently. But most importantly, you love differently.
Do you relate to any of these parents?
Which story sounds most like yours, or who do you aspire to be like?
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